So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up. Therefore, whenever we have the opportunity, we should do good to everyone—especially to those in the family of faith.
~Galatians 6:9-10

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Things I Love That Make My Life Easier - Stick Vac

We all have tools that make our lives easier.  Since moving into this house, there is a lot more tile for me to keep clean.  With three kids spreading crumbs wherever they walk, it seemed like I was sweeping all the time, especially once the baby noticed he could eat the crumbs.  My husband was a genius when he bought an Electrolux Ergorapido Ultra 2 in 1 Stick Vacuum.  I love this thing, so I'm going to share my delight in how well it works.

It is a light stick vacuum (about 5 lbs) that has a detachable hand vac which is easy to take out and put back in.  The vacuum maneuvers around well, turns corners easily with the flick of a wrist.  Best part?  It picks up whole Cheerios and Kix  - you may need to go a little slower, but it picks them up!  (I had a piece of cereal that was giving me trouble, so I just smashed it with the vacuum and then won.)



If you feel like you're starting to lose suction because of all those Cheerios you've sucked up, just quickly flick open the "hatch" and dump the crumbs into the trash.  Then you can go back to cleaning up the mess your lovely littles made.

 When you need to empty the entire things, it is, again, very easy.
 

 All three of my kids like to use it, even the 13-month-old.  In fact, he comes running whenever I turn it on.

  Did I mention it is cordless?  It has a stand you just drop it onto to charge.  We keep it next to the bookcase in our front room where it is hardly noticeable.

I have a medium pile carpet and it works well for cleaning up those ground in snacks.  I wouldn't recommend it for your entire carpet though; it is a little difficult to push, but easy to pull back.  But if you have any large amount of hard flooring, I highly recommend this stick vac!

Do you have something you love that makes your life easier?

Thursday, May 9, 2013

Roaring Out of Frustration

It's dinner time and the kids are getting on my nerves.  I'm trying to figure out what to cook and they're whining, "I'm hungry!" "What are we having for dinner?" "Can we have (fill in the blank) for dinner instead?"  I am about to loose my cool with them.  Wait, about to?  No, already have.  My voice is not pleasant; irritation is coming through loud and clear.  I'm ready to scream out of frustration.

It is too wet to send them outside, and I have a feeling that part of the whiny-ness stems from needing to release pent up energy.  So I run towards my oldest and "Tag, you're it!" then I run away.  He stands there and whines, "Noooooooooooooo!  I don't want to play taaaaaaaaaag!"

Grrrrrr.

Oh, wait, that's a great idea.

I run up to the six-year-old again and, "ROOOOOOOOAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRR!"

He squeals in delight and takes off running, his sister close behind him.  The toddler has a worried look on his face; he doesn't remember us playing this game before.  I pick him up and start roaring at his older siblings with him.  He catches on quickly and we chase the big kids roaring at them.  They all have grins on their faces, and, bonus, they're getting energy out.

I am no longer irritated, the kids are no longer whining, and I am in a proper state of mind to figure out what to have for dinner.  (It ended up being mac and cheese and chili, in case you were wondering.)

Turns out, roaring out of frustration really does make things better.

Monday, May 6, 2013

My Paradoxical Life

"Motherhood is full of paradoxes.
You don't have to justify one if you also
feel the other - we can hold both in our hands."
~Lisa Grace Byrne

My goodness, that says it all, right?   There are so many days when I know I love my children, and would do anything for them, and yet just want to get a way from them for an hour!

When my first child was born, I was so excited.  And then reality set in and I was exhausted, numb, and felt like I was barely holding on to get through to the next day.  All of a sudden, the things I thought I knew about being a mom didn't help me and I felt I was flying by the seat of my pants - a feeling I really hate.

By the time I felt I was finally getting a handle on things, our second child was born...two months earlier than I expected her to appear.  Talk about feeling unequipped!  It took me so long to feel connected to her and bond with her, I wondered if I would ever be able to really love her with my with my whole heart.

When our third child was born, I expected to feel disconnected with him for the first few months, just like I did with the others.  I knew we would be moving soon after he was born, so I just expected the first six months of his life to be a living nightmare for me.  But God is so good.  In the most difficult of situations, he gave me an immediate bond with my youngest, he gave me that peace that goes beyond understanding, and he allowed me to see that life really is full of paradoxes, and we can embrace them, even though we don't understand them.  I am so thankful for the blessings God has given me though the hard times.

I often feel like I should be that mom, you know, the one who is always dressed fashionably, her kids clothes coordinate, she crafts, bakes, has an Etsy page, always has the right words to say in difficult situations, always has dinner on the table and a kiss for her husband when he comes home.  I think that the mom we are thinking about would also say that she has those difficult days on the inside of her life when things seem to be falling apart, the days where she can't manage to get dressed, dinner is mac & cheese, the laundry is so overwhelming she just shuts the door on it.

As much as I would want the outside world to see that I'm that mom, I'm really the inside mom, the one who feels inadequate and messy and chaotic.  I've had many a mom-friend ask me "How do you do it?" and I realize she sees me as that mom who has it all together, and I am so NOT that together mom.  I am just a child of God who relies on his daily grace to get me through each moment.  I cherish the times I'm able to get together with other moms, for the chit-chat and small talk that take me out of my bubble and give me a glimpse of what I think of as the "outside world."

So I embrace my paradoxical life - the one that seems put together and yet isn't, the mom who loves her kids and yet wants to be alone for a few minutes, the peace God gives despite the chaos, the yearning for better things amid the contentment of being where I am; the realization that I have a wonderful life, even though it can be difficult.

Can you find the joy in and embrace your own paradoxes?

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Saturday, April 27, 2013

Whining

I tell my son to go put on his socks and shoes so we can leave.  Ten minutes later he is still barefoot.  I ask, "Why don't you have your shoes on?  We need to leave!"

Wait, did I hear how that came out of my mouth?  I didn't ask...I whined.

Drat.  Now I hear myself whine at my kids.  All. The. Time.

"Don't put the toys in your mooouuuth!"

"Whyyy is it taking so long to wash your hands?"

"Sit down while you're eating!"

"Are you allowed to hit?"

All of these things I say with a whine in my voice.  I was horrified when I heard myself and couldn't stop talking.  No wonder my kids whine - I whine at them!

I also figured out when I whine at my kids.  When I'm weary, when I'm physically exhausted, when I'm spiritually drained, at the end of the day when I'm trying to cook and they are going crazy.

How do I fix this?  Well, first off, I can only change inside with God's help.  So, I pause and ask for His help.  I take a few deep breaths and calm myself down.  Then, I think to myself, I am the adult here, I am capable of controlling my own emotions no matter how out of control my kids' emotions are.  And, then, if I need to, I apologize to my kids.  Yeah, that's real humbling, and I don't really want to do it, but I think it is important to apologize if I am in the wrong because I am the first example of Christ that my children see.

Do you whine at your kids?  Do you cajole them into doing something?  Does your impatience come out in your voice and actions?  Next time you hear your voice starting to sound ungracious, I challenge you (and myself) to Stop, Look, and Listen.  Stop talking, Look to Jesus for help, and Listen to his voice in your heart helping your voice change.

Friday, March 29, 2013

Love and Acceptance

Lately I've been hearing a lot about how Jesus' life on earth was all about love and acceptance.  I would never want to mislead anyone into thinking that just because they try to be a good person, they will be accepted into heaven, because that is simply not true.

Christianity is about love, but not necessarily about acceptance.  Acceptance says I will continue to let you do things that will hurt you.  Love says I will gently correct you. Jesus did NOT accept everyone - he didn't accept the Pharisees, and in fact said some pretty harsh things to them.  He did not accept Peter when he blasphemed, yet loved him when he repented.  He welcomed tax collectors, prostitutes and sinners with open arms, but did not accept them as they were; he showed them love and compassion, he healed their infirmities, and then he told them to stop sinning.  Love is not the same as acceptance.  

Any mom who has a toddler knows that love and acceptance do not always co-exist.  When your toddler wants to play with something dangerous, you lovingly make them stop.  You are not tolerant of the dangerous behavior, and you do something about it.  Love, tolerance and acceptance are totally different.  Love trumps all.  I will not tolerate sin in my child's heart because I love him.  I will not accept lying from my kids because I love them. I will be compassionate and gently show my children that the sinful condition of their hearts needs to be fixed by Jesus.

The only way that God will accept you into heaven is if you have declared that Jesus is the Master of your life and you have submitted your will to him.  He will not accept you if you have only been a "good person."  Make no mistake, God loves you; he loves us all.  However, he will not accept us all.  Our sin has made it impossible for God to be accepting of us.  The only way God will accept you is if you have accepted his son as the redeemer of your sin.

I don't want my children to grow up thinking that in order to love someone, they have to be accepting of that person's sin; differences, yes - sin, no.  And I want my children to show love to everybody, even when they disagree with them.  It is possible to disagree in love.

So on this Good Friday, the day we remember how Jesus suffered and died to cleanse us from our sins, I am praying that you have accepted Jesus as your Savior, so that he can accept you into heaven.

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Thursday, February 21, 2013

Redeem the Time


Lately the Lord has been telling me to be purposeful and intentional about what I am doing.  Instead of going through my days on autopilot, to be consciously thinking about my actions and my words.

The other day, I randomly* read Ephesians 5:16, "redeeming the time, because the days are evil."  The phrase "redeem the time" has been going through my head since then.  Every time I sit down at the computer, "Redeem the time" is the chorus in my head.

How am I using my time?  Am I using it wisely?  Am I making the most out of every minute that I have?  Honestly, no, I'm not.  And since I read that verse, every time I start to do something that is not fruitful, the phrase runs through my head, "Redeem the time."

The NIV version of verses 15 through 17 says, "Be very careful, then, how you live--not as unwise, but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.  Therefore, do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.

It would be so much easier to float through life doing only what needs to be done just because it needs to be done.  But I want so much more than that.  Instead of just telling my kids to "knock it off and behave," I want to explain why they should behave and the heart condition lying underneath their disobedience.  That is being purposeful, and redeeming the time that was spent in disobedience.

I want to instill in my children that living life to the fullest is being purposeful about how I spend my time.  I want them to look back on me and see a mom who was involved in their lives, constantly teaching by example.  I don't want them to look back on their childhood and picture me always sitting in front of the computer or having the TV on.

I am realizing more and more that how I am, how I act, and how I talk is who my children will be, how they will act and talk.  We always want better things for our children.  Resolve with me to BE the better that you want to see in your kids.

I challenge you (and myself) to redeem the time this week, living as someone who is wise.

So be careful how you live.  Don't live like fools, but like those who are wise.  Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days.  Don't act thoughtlessly, but understand what the Lord wants you to do. Ephesians 5:15-17 (NLT)

*I don't think "random" is the correct word, because the Lord obviously had me read those words for a reason.  But I say "random" because I was just perusing the text, looking for something else and I came across those words which stuck with me. 


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Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Lent

I did not grow up in a liturgical church, and so I never celebrated Lent.  In fact, I just thought Lent was something Catholics did to chalk up points so they wouldn't go to hell.  It always seemed a little showy, and a bit hypocritical (see my side note below). It wasn't until a Lutheran friend mentioned something about Lent that I started to look into it.  You know what I discovered?  It's a great way to prepare our hearts and minds for Easter!

What is Lent?  Lent is the 40 days leading up to Easter, not counting Sundays which are feast days, that is used as a time of reflection, growth, sacrifice and prayer. (Side note: I'll admit I don't quite understand why the Sundays are separate.  As I see it, it's kind of like a cheat, because you can have/do whatever you gave up for the 40 days.  So, I'm including them into our celebration and into our fast.) Why 40 days? Forty is a significant number in the Bible.It usually symbolizes waiting, preparing, testing, communion with God, or chastisement. The forty days of Lent are based on how Jesus fasted and prayed in the desert for 40 days and nights before he began his ministry.

Last year I scoured blogs and articles to find ways of celebrating Lent with the kids.  I took a bunch of ideas and combined them to come up with what I think works nicely for us.

The first thing I did was make a paper chain with 47 links, one for each day from Ash Wednesday to Easter Sunday - 40 purple links represent Jesus' royalty and seven white links are the seven Sundays and represent Jesus' purity.  On each link, I wrote something to pray about, either supplication or praise.  Every day, one of the kids gets to rip off a link and at dinner we will use it to guide our prayer and discussion. I wanted our children to know all about Jesus' life on Earth.  So, each day, there is a little story about one part of his life, starting with his birth, covering some of his teachings and miracles, and of course, his death and resurrection.  However, I didn't want to stop there, because Jesus was on earth for 40 days after he rose from the dead.  So on Easter, we will read about his ascension into heaven.

Along with the short stories and the chain link for each day, the kids will have a coloring page that I printed off the Internet.  The color pages will hang on the wall of the playroom.

Last year, I had Zeke about a week into Lent, so we didn't do anything other than the paper chain.  I'm still working on the stories, so I'll post them when they're complete.  This year we also decided to give up something for the forty(seven) days, to remind us of how Jesus gave up so much for us.  It wasn't just food and water for forty days in the desert.  He gave up his power, his place of honor, his royalty, his proximity to God, his dignity, his life; all so that we would not have to pay the price for our sins and spend eternity away from God.  I hardly think giving up some small thing for 47 days can come close to what Jesus gave up for us.

This is an exciting new thing we are doing to prepare our hearts for Easter.  I'm hoping that the kids, and us adults, will learn something new as we reflect, grow, sacrifice and pray during this Lenten season.
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For further thought, I found these articles interesting on Lent from the Evangelical perpective:
What is Ash Wednesday?   
Why Bother With Lent?

Saturday, January 26, 2013

Permission

I am weary today.  It has been a trying day with the children.  So...

I give myself permission to use pre-packaged foods when cooking dinner.  While I would like to make all my meals from scratch, sometimes it becomes overwhelming.  If using a can of cream of mushroom soup will get dinner on the table, then I should not feel guilty about not making my own cream of mushroom soup.

I give myself permission to use disposable diapers when the thought of having to wash one more poopy cloth diaper becomes too much for me to handle.

I give myself permission to let the kids watch a show when I am at my wits end and need a few minutes of quiet time with God.

I give myself permission to let the dishes pile up on the counter while I pay attention to my children.

I give myself permission to let my kids eat Cheerios for snack when I am busy with the baby and can't cut an apple or cheese.

I give myself grace to be the best mom I am able to be.  And only by God's grace can I be the mom He wants me to be.


Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.  
~Galatians 6:9

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Finger Foods


Are you looking for better finger-food options than those yummy, yet totally non-nutritious rice puffs?  Here's some easy and nutritious ideas for your little one's fingers.  I like to cook up about 1/4 cup of four or five foods (usually separately, as cooking times are different) and refrigerate them so the baby has some variety through the week.

By the way, babies don't need to have teeth to chew food (my 11 month old is still toothless).  Those little bony gums are excellent for mashing soft foods.  Have you ever stuck your finger in your baby's mouth and practically had it crushed?  Yeah, babies don't need teeth.

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On the menu recently in our house:

Carrots, sweet potatoes, lima beans, black beans, and hard boiled egg white
I steamed frozen crinkle cut carrots, then cut them into finger sized chunks.  I cut the sweet potato into small pieces before I steamed it.  The lima beans started frozen, and I broke the larger lima beans in half.   The black beans started off as dried beans and I cooked them in the crock pot, but you can use canned beans.  I just prefer to use non-salted foods for my babies, and I don't salt my beans when I crock pot them.  I took a few chunks of my morning boiled eggs off and refrigerated them for later. 



Bananas, peas, and blueberries
I steamed the frozen peas (see bottom for a fun story on peas!).  The blueberries are fresh.  I pierced them with a sharp knife so they would be easier to squish, as the skin can be difficult to gum.  Did you know that bananas naturally break into thirds?  I sliced half a banana and then fingered the thirds apart.



 Pears and olives
The pear was not soft, so after peeling and chopping it, I steamed it for a few minutes.  Always peel foods with a tough skin, e.g. potatoes, apples, tomatoes.  The olives are straight from a can and I tore them into small pieces (they were whole olives).

Other finger food ideas:
Beans of any kind (cooked and rinsed)
Toasted oat O's, like Cheerios (I don't recommend these as a first food, however.  Baby needs to be used to chewing before eating these)
Scrambled eggs
Pizza crusts (again, after baby is used to chewing)
Steamed veggies cut into small pieces: broccoli, cauliflower, potato, butternut squash, zucchini (peeled)
Raw soft veggies and fruit (peeled and in small pieces): cucumber, watermelon, peach, raspberry, cherry

**IMPORTANT NOTE: Never, EVER, leave your baby unattended while eating.  Even if you are confident that your baby is a good chewer, take the food away if you need to leave for a moment.**

On the subject of peas...
I was opening a two-pound bag of frozen peas and managed to spill half of them on the floor.  My 9-month-old was sitting near me, playing in "his" drawer (he's allowed to play in the lowest drawer that has plastic dishes in it).  I'm sure you can imagine what happened: he had frozen peas in his mouth before I could even move.  I picked him up and was going to swipe the peas out of his mouth, but first I laughed at the expression on his face: perplexed yet blissful.  Of course, this was the first time he'd had something frozen in his mouth, and he evidently really liked it.  I realized that the peas thaw very quickly in his warm mouth and so I let him keep the few he had shovelled into his mouth.  Now, when in a pinch, I've thrown a (small) handful of frozen peas onto his tray. He thinks they are the best treat ever.

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Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Dinner


I have a confession to make: I am having a horrible time getting dinner on the table.  I used to be fairly good at getting a healthy meal on the table at a decent hour.  Now, I can't manage to get even an unhealthy dinner on the table in a timely fashion.

I know what part of the problem is, I have a 9 month old who need attention at that time of day.  If I can get him to take a nap, I have about 30 minutes to fix the food.  If I can't get him to sleep, he needs to be held, or fed, or kept out of trouble in some way.

I used to plan my meals and use that guide to buy my groceries for the week.  For some reason, I've been having the hardest time figuring out what meals to cook for the week. It's like my head is in a fog and I can't think clearly.

A week before Christmas, a friend posted some freezer crock-pot meals.  I cooked one the other day and made an extra batch for the freezer.  I have no idea why I never thought of prepping extra food and freezing it.  Seriously, that is something I used to do, but this mental block about dinners has been really bad.

For Christmas, I received a cookbook about freezer meals.  It was an answer to prayer!  And why in the world didn't I think of that before?  It's like the mental blockade has been cleared and I can now think and plan out my meals again.

I'm slowly working my way to having a freezer stocked with meals that I can get on the table in a timely manner.  The last few days I have prepared dinner during quiet time and made extra for the freezer.  I'm confident that soon I'll be able to, once again, serve healthy meals without losing it completely!

Do you have trouble getting dinner on the table?  Have you figured out any solutions? 


Friday, December 28, 2012

Remembering at Christmas

As we celebrate Jesus birth, we are also mourning the death of 20 precious children.  I am reminded that when Jesus was born, there was also mourning for children who had been killed mercilessly and needlessly.  Herod the Great was a man who was mentally ill.  He killed his own family members because he was so hopped up on power that he couldn't handle the thought that he might one day be usurped.  When a toddler seemed to be a threat to his throne, he had about 30 baby boys, all two years or younger, murdered.  Why?  What possible real threat from a baby was there?  None.  It was a seemingly senseless act of horror.  Yet, God allowed it to happen.

There is no knowing why God allowed the events in Newtown, CT.  What purpose could these murders have?  And what about the adults who sacrificed their lives to save the kids?  I have no answer to that. We live in a sinful world that is just going to get worse with time.  But I do know this: God is a just and loving God.  The hurt will never go away, but God can and does work through tragic events.  Just as he did 2,000 years ago.  A baby was born who would, as an adult, voluntarily sacrifice his own life to save the life of every person ever born; all you have to do is receive that gift.

I have this hope: that my sins have been forgiven by God and one day I will be in heaven.  I am sure those precious children are with God now and don't have to experience any more of the world's hurts.  And I pray that the Lord comes for his church soon.

Thursday, December 20, 2012

Mouse in the Warehouse

When we moved to Portland nine years ago, it was such an adventure.  I had so much fun figuring out how to maneuver around the area, where to find the necessities of life.  Fast forward to the present.  It has been eight months since we moved and I still feel lost, and I hate that feeling.

It may seem strange, but I haven't the slightest idea where the best place to buy a wall calendar is.  I used to have a few favorite places I would look until I found just the right one:  functional and beautiful.  Now, that small, seemingly insignificant detail eludes me and I feel lost.

I know, you're thinking, A calendar?  Really?  You're upset because you can't find a wall calendar?

No, not exactly, but then, in a way, yes.  The fact that I don't have a special place to go (not just an ordinary Staples box store) and browse through calendars makes me feel very lost, and small.  Southern California is huge.  If you've never been here, it's like going to a huge wholesale warehouse and staring at everything around you, not knowing where to start;  knowing it will take you hours to see everything, and even after you've been through all the aisles, you can't remember what you just saw or where it was.  In a word, it's overwhelming.  The vastness of SoCal is just unimaginable unless you've experienced it.

So, yes, I can't find a calendar and that fact makes me feel insignificant.  You realize, of course, that this is just like the straw that broke the camel's back.  Lots of little things add up to one big, overwhelming, insignificant, insurmountable plight.

I am a little mouse trying to find my way around the warehouse.  I'm trying to make my little corner a cozy home, but sometimes the outside still seems overwhelming.  I know it takes time, and I'll get there.  I'm just being honest here.

Monday, December 17, 2012

Monday's Meal: Chicken Divan

This is an easy meal that I always have the ingredients on hand for.  You can make it simple by using pre-packaged foods, or completely from scratch, it's up to you.  I do it both ways, depending on the amount of time I have.

Ingredients:

1 box of stuffing (I also like to make cornbread and turn it into stuffing), cooked to directions
1 can cream of mushroom soup (or make your own)
1/2 cup mayonnaise (if I make the soup, I don't put in mayo)
1 tsp lemon juice or soy sauce
Fresh cracked pepper to taste
3 cups (about 2 breasts) cooked and diced chicken
3 cups frozen vegetable (traditionally I made it with broccoli, but my husband doesn't like broccoli, so I've used green beans and lima beans)
2-3 cups shredded cheddar cheese

Using a 9x13 casserole dish, put the vegetable on the bottom (I don't usually pre-cook my veggies, but if using a heartier vegetable, you can pre-cook them for a few minutes).  Layer the chicken over the vegetables.  In a separate bowl, mix together the soup, mayo, lemon juice (soy sauce) and pepper.  Pour over the chicken and veggies.  Top the casserole with the prepared stuffing.  Sprinkle the cheese over the top of the stuffing.

Tent foil over the casserole and bake at 350 degrees for 25 minutes.  Remove foil and bake for 5 additional minutes until cheese is melted and bubbly.